The last time I saw the Eagles, I told myself it would be the last time. They put on an excellent show, they are one of my favorite bands, but I've seen them a few times over the years, and they are expensive. But that was before the show. After the show - the first of two nights at the COVID rescheduled shows at Chase Center in San Francisco, I posted the following to my Fakebook timeline:
This post is a departure from dogs, motorcycles and cigars, not the first one and not that last, but it is does run along the same theme of innocuousness. There is nothing disagreeable, controversial, adversarial, or, in the grander scheme of things, particularly important contained here. On the other hand, one could argue (I would) that nothing is more important than these small day-to-day , pleasures, victories, connections and the like. So, that’s a lot to set up this. If you’re still with me, cool. If you’re not, you have probably just skipped down to the pretty pictures and “liked” away. Also, cool.
Last night, the Eagles performed the first of their two nights at the Chase Center in San Francisco. This is the Hotel California/Greatest Hits Tour that was postponed for more than a year because of COVID. I’ll cut right to the, um… “chase” and go ahead and say that it was worth the wait. Since reforming after Glenn Frey’s passing, I’ve seen them three times - their first show in LA at the Classic West in 2017, again on their next tour in Sacramento at the G1C in 2018 and last night. All were quintessential Eagles performances, but last night was easily their best - before or after Glenn Frey’s untimely death, and prior, I’d say their best tour was their last with him, the “History of the Tour.”
Between Vince Gill and Frey’s son, Deacon, the elder Frey’s role is not recreated, it is reinvented, but in a way that pays homage to his legacy and, through his son, absolutely in his image. Yet, it was last night that the entire band, as good as it was right from the start, really came together in “that” way that few groups ever do, in the way the Eagles (almost) always have - and now they have again. There was magic on that stage. There was chemistry. Maybe it was alchemy, but whatever you want to call it, this band was truly enjoying their night, and their genuine appreciation for their fans’ - not just last night, but for more than 50 years - revealed an authenticity that cannot be faked.
I told myself this would be my last Eagles concert. While they are one of my favorite groups, I’ve seen them a lot - enough, I figured - and they are an expensive production. However, maybe this was not my last Eagles concert. At the conclusion of the fourth encore song (that’s right, Sacramento, we got four - Henley’s “Boys of Summer” was included in the SF encore set), I toyed, briefly, with the idea of going back tonight. I won’t, but when the next tour comes around - because I seriously doubt they are done - you might just find me back in the stands.
Cue the music…
I’m already gone…
I have tickets right smack-dab in the center of the 202 section in the new 4,500 seat venue (named, originally enough, "The Venue") at the Thunder Valley Casino in Lincoln, CA. They are in the center of the center and close, closer than I was at the Chase, at The Golden 1 Center in Sacramento in 2018 and way closer than the band's resurrection after the passing of Glenn Frey for the Classic West festival at Dodger Stadium in 2017 or the seats I had as a broke-ass grad student in Louisiana when I saw them in New Orleans for the "History of" tour in 2014.
These tickets were close to $500 each (including all the bullshit Ticketmaster fees), comparable to the price of the seats I bought for both the Chase Center show last year and the G1C show in 2018. Were they "worth it?" That's a tough question to answer. If I had to put it on a credit card and I was paying those tickets off over the next few months (been there, done that - never again), then, no, it's not. But If I have disposable cash, then I decide what to dispose it on - sometimes I might "waste it" on motorcycle parts, others it might be an Eagles concert.
None of this means I will for sure use these tickets. I bought them because I could, knowing the investment is safe (-ish; I thought that about the pre-Covid Chase Center purchase, too - then Covid happened and I lost money on my "investment" extra tickets). They made selling the tickets a little more difficult by sending out actual, physical tickets in the mail - if I sell, it will be a real, not virtual, transaction. But that is only stupid Ticketmaster bullshit, not an insurmountable problem. And at least Ticketmaster won't get a double-cut that way. But I didn't "need" the money I spent and I don't "need" to double or triple it, either. However, I will get that if I sell them as a pair (no "friend deals," don't ask), that's the payoff for the investment and the risk I took.
But I also might go. What I wrote a year ago - combined with the fact that seeing the Eagles in a one-off small venue setting is not likely to happen again soon - is pretty compelling. I mean, I can be pretty convincing. If I do go, that will leave open one important question. Fortunately, I have, literally, months to decide.
It’s early – way earlier than I need to be up and way
earlier than I would ever wake up if given a choice. There are a number of
reasons why I might get up this early, but not ever for no reason, yet here we
are. It happens once in a while, and there probably is a reason, but fuck if I
know what it is. I guess I do have a lot on my mind, but that’s not exactly
new, or exactly out of the ordinary. In fact, it would be more curious if there
wasn’t much on my mind. There was also once a time when I would use these “awakenings”
(makes it sound more mystic that way) to pound the keyboard, to let the muse
speak though my fingers and, usually, come up with something… some thing.
But it’s been a while. Not just since an early morning
up-for-no-reason writing session, but since I’ve done any real writing at all.
Oh, sure, I’ve done the shit for work – syllabus writing, assignment writing, emails
and even a handful of letters of recommendation – but not this. And when I say
it’s been a while, we are not talking about days or weeks – it’s been months.
This is the end of August and I have not written anything besides a few longish
Facebook posts this entire year. And now, all of a sudden, I wake up before four
o’clock in the fucking morning and the words want to come out. Okay…
Speaking of work, yesterday was the first day of instruction
for the fall 2022 semester at California State University, Sacramento. The
official beginning of the academic year was last week, but the first day of
school was yesterday and campus was packed. It was packed like it hasn’t been
in a long time. It was packed in a way that I used to hate - the monumental
hassle of the first week or two of school, the traffic, the parking, the
students adding and dropping classes – all stuff that is part of doing my job
but not part of the job. Yesterday I didn’t feel any of that frustration, any
of that hassle, any of that over-peopledness. What I felt was gratitude even
though I was stuck in a monumental traffic jam trying to get to the faculty lot
that would likely not have any parking spaces available. I didn’t care.
I didn’t even have to be there yesterday. I have classes on
Mondays and Wednesdays, but not on the main campus. I went because I needed to
pick up a couple of things, but I really didn’t – that was an excuse. But I
didn’t even understand that until much later, after I got home last night. In
my reflection of why I was feeling the way I was, processing it, I came back
around to what in the actual fuck did I need to be there for. I didn’t. I was
curious. And I could have just waited until today when I will be on campus
virtually all day. And perhaps that is what woke me up. Don’t know. Don’t care.
Doesn’t matter.
I’m entering my eighth year of teaching at Sac State and, if
I include the teaching I did as a grad student, first at Sac State and then at
Louisiana State University, my 15th year of teaching undergraduate university
students. I started in 2008 at Sac State, continued in 2011 at LSU and in the
fall of 2015, it became my full-time job back at Sac State. Prior to 2008, I was
a full-time student for all but one semester from fall of 2003 until I received
my BA in late 2007 – from Sac State. That’s a lot of time in the same area for
someone who historically gets bored with not just his job, but with his entire
career every five to seven years. In fact, I am in record territory for
remaining with the same employer, never mind the same career.
But COVID nearly changed all that. I do not like people (as
a collection, as groups, in general), but I love being on campus, in the
classroom and amongst students and colleagues. It seems to be the only kind of peopling
I can tolerate. When COVID hit, it reduced the one form of interaction with
people that I actually like to little black squares on a monitor. The classroom
collaboration and cooperation were all but eliminated and only those who were
already naturally predisposed to engaging with their peers would do so – the rest
(which was most) of them were content with Zoom anonymity. And it was like that
for more than two years. The switch was turned almost overnight, but it took a
long time – maybe as much as an entire semester or more – for it to get turned
back. And, while it appears to be more or less back to the way things were
pre-COVID, I am sure there are many nuances that remain, many of which will
show themselves today in my three sections and one office hours session – on campus.
But I will be on campus, and so will they. And that is good,
despite the monumental cluster-fuck it’s going to be. I have never looked
forward to a traffic jam or a crowd or students jostling for a seat in one of
my classes or any of the other first day/first week trials and tribulations
like I am this week. I remember all too clearly venturing onto a virtually deserted
campus on the first day of school not very long ago. This is so much better.
One of the great injustices in life is that the average human lifespan is so much longer than that of
the average dog. For those of us who cherish our canine companions,
that means we will not only have to endure their passing, but also that
we go into the relationship knowing that will eventually come to pass.
They don’t, they live each day as though it is their only day — not like
it might be their last, but like it’s the only day there is — the only
one that matters. It is among the most profound gifts they give us, but
it is among many, many others. If we, the so-called “dog-people,” are
lucky, we will experience a few dogs who both grace our lives… and
depart from them. Luck, however, is a two-edged sword, both edges are
razor sharp. One side cuts deeply into our hearts, our souls and our
lives, filling us with unequivocal, unconditional love; the other leaves
the pain of their passing so unique it is difficult to describe. The
sting of loss will fade over time, but their love never does.
“But what is grief, if not the perseverance of love.”
~ Vision, from Marvel’s WandaVision
Facebook,
as much evil as it sews, is remarkably efficient in cataloguing my
activity and recalling it as “memories” on a daily basis. In that
respect, it only reproduces what I have put in, and much of that is
absolutely worth remembering. Sometimes what is worth remembering is the
“perseverance of love.” There have been a handful of really special
dogs in my life, all lived out what would be considered long lives — for
dogs. Facebook reminded me of two today. One passed on this day
peacefully in her sleep nine years ago at the age of 15. Her name was
Magic, a pound rescue black lab/Australian shepherd mix whose name fit
her perfectly. The other, Bella, in this Facebook video,
was just a pup 12 years ago today. She passed less than a year ago.
Both of these dogs left paw prints in my heart; I feel them, still,
persevering. The sting of their loss has faded, but their love remains —
unequivocal, unconditional, eternal.
Now
I have Möbius. He has not replaced Magic or Bella or any of the other
dogs who have graced my life over my 59 years on this planet. He has
added to them, he is among them, he is part of their pack. He lives
every day like it’s the only day there is. He loves me unconditionally,
he is always happy, his word is always full of optimism. However, the
odds are that I will outlive him and one day, he, too, will have to
leave me. He doesn’t know it, but I do. He still has a lesson for me —
he has the tools to deal with that reality, to deal with all future
possible calamity, uncertainty, whatever life might throw at me: Live
today like it’s the only day — not like it’s my last, not like there is
no tomorrow, and not like a dog without any need to plan for the future,
but to enjoy what time I have and just live. Today. And love — like
today is the only day there is.
The Eric Rood Administrative Center is the main government
building complex for Nevada County, a rural county in the Sierra foothills just
east of Sacramento, California. There are two main buildings – one holds all of
the main county governmental machinery and the other is the Wayne Brown
Correctional Facility (WBCF) – the Nevada County jail. Yesterday, the 30th
Annual Nevada County Toy Run once again attracted in the neighborhood of 1,000
motorcycles with various toys lashed to them. They were all gathered in the parking
lot outside of the jail for their annual pilgrimage to the fairgrounds. For 30
years, the toy run has provided toys, clothes and food to the less fortunate residents
of Nevada and Placer counties. For me, it is also sort of a homecoming.
In the summer of 2002 and again in 2004, the WBCF was my
home for a while. For 78 days in the summer of 2002, I would pay my debt to
society and, because I am not very good at following directions, I returned for
another 40 days on August 6th of 2004. In 2002, although it was not
my first time in jail, it was my first extended sentence; it was more than just
a day or two, or four or five – it was weeks. I was tired, I was becoming
compliant, I experienced some moments of what we call “surrender,” but I was
still fighting, still a “victim,” and still way smarter than virtually everyone
else. And I had my rights, dammit! I was convicted of a non-violent felony
(since then, after a few years, reduced to a misdemeanor) and sentenced to the
relatively cushy trustee “N Section” of the jail. I felt I could improve upon
my situation and worked myself right into the much less cushy general
population “A-pod,” where I served out most of my sentence.
Every year that I ride in the toy run – and on the other
occasions I happen to be on my bike at or around WBCF (it’s located right on
CA-49 near CA-20 in Nevada City, an absolutely beautiful place to ride a
motorcycle) – it takes me back to a little rectangular window on the second
floor, right on the corner of the jail, in A-pod. That was my cell. I used to
stare out that window and watch the Harleys and other motorcycles riding up
Highway 49, pissed off, at first, but eventually just sad. Sad because at some
point while I was there I had an epiphany. One day – and I will never forget it
– I realized why I was there. It was not because of the cops, or the judge, or
my idiot “friends,” or my parents or anyone else. It was because of me. It was
like lightning struck me. That day, I stopped fighting.
Until I got out. I was going to follow the script. I had
every intention of cleaning up, of getting into a 12-step program, of following
through with the second part of my sentence – three months of residential
treatment – and starting a new, drug-free life. But withing six hours I was
right back where I was when I went in, and I had no ability to turn it off. It’s
not the first time I was going to “quit” and meant it. It’s not the first time
that I connected the dots, saw where they led and said to myself, “enough!” I’ve
had these “moments of clarity” before – and as recently as less than two years
previously when my behavior almost killed me.
A little more than 21 years ago, on October 17th,
2000, I was living the life of a “non-conformist,” of a “renegade,” of a “freedom-loving
American,” or whatever other euphemism I would come up with to defend my “right”
to put whatever drugs into my body I saw fit. I would say things like it no one
else’s business, that the only person I’m harming is myself (and I didn’t
believe I was, anyway) and that if it bothers you, that’s your problem, not
mine. I bought into all of that bullshit in order to do what I wanted to do,
when I wanted to do it. That morning, due to the drugs I was consuming, I fell
asleep at the wheel while driving my then 13- year-old son to school. I drifted
into the oncoming lane and hit an approaching logging truck almost head-on. My
son escape major physical injuries (however, non-physical injuries are serious,
too), as did the logging truck driver, but my injuries damned near killed me.
I don’t remember almost all of it, and what I do remember is
seriously clouded by shock, pain medication and a medically induced coma. I “woke
up” five weeks later. Within a day or two, by the time the fog cleared, I knew
exactly what happened. I knew this wasn’t a “close-call,” it wasn’t a “near-miss,”
this was a direct hit and, of all the times in my life that I “could have died,”
this time I should have. They thought I would. They didn’t think I was going to
make it. And I knew why, even though it was determined that “drugs and alcohol were
not a factor,” (I have no idea how or why, but that’s what the police report
said).
I’m not stupid. I almost killed myself, I could have killed
my kid. I put my parents and everyone else who cared about me though literal
hell. It was everyone else’s business. I was never going to do that
again. But I did, not long after I got out of the hospital three months
later – still with metal and tubes sticking out of me. I rationalized that now that
I knew what could happen, I could prevent catastrophe, but that was yet another
lie. Law enforcement came into my life in a big way and by 2002, I found myself
looking out that little window longing to be part of that world, wishing I could
have followed the script that would get me there.
I finally got into residential treatment in March of 2003
and stayed for six months. I gained a lot of clarity, participated in 12-step
recovery, tried to work with the “god” thing – something that took a lot of
work, because there is no old man with a beard living in the sky in my world.
But there was a path around it. In the fall of 2003 I returned to school and
thrived like never before. The success I had there was a two-edged sword,
however. It bred an arrogance that would soon be dealt with at the end of 2003
with a relapse, a probation violation in 2004 and a return to WBCF on August 6th,
2004. Since that day, I have not found it necessary to use any drugs or alcohol.
I have found that following that script is working for me.
But it wasn’t easy. And it wasn’t just the drugs. I had to
swallow years and years of pride, a world-view that had me at its center without
a concern about how my actions affect others. I had to take all of that back –
in a very real, personal and direct way. Do I follow all of the rules? That’s
not a simple question. There are rules and then there are rules. Some conventions
I do not follow – but they do not affect others. My tattoos, my long hair do
not. That really is your problem, not mine. My motorcycles? That’s a much
tougher question. If I were to be seriously injured or killed on my bike, that
would absolutely affect those I care about – those who love me. But that is a
little different, the same can be said for simply walking out my front door –
it is a dangerous world. Drugs, at least those that defy “recreational use,”
have no redeeming features – they lead to destruction, despair, dereliction
and, often, death. The script I have followed for the past 17-plus years absolutely,
100 percent prevents all of that. It has a proven track record.
Just to be
able to remember “what it was like 21 years ago,” we must be considerably older
than 21 years of age. My first memories are from the age of maybe four or five –
perhaps a little younger, but they are so sketchy that I hesitate to qualify
them as full-fledged “memories.” Those are more ephemeral, ghostlike, perhaps
dreamlike images that I cannot really contextualize. But from the age of about
five, they become much more concrete. That means I had to be at least 26 before
I could say things like, “Twenty-one years ago, we didn’t have…” However, I can
remember what life was like when I was 26, and I wasn’t thinking about shit
like that. I wasn’t really thinking much at all.
Twenty-one
years, in the context of a human life, is a long time. It is almost one third
of the average human life expectancy, worldwide. It was, and still is for
certain things, the arbitrary number of years it takes for a child to reach “adulthood.”
For many species, 21 years is more than enough time to come into existence,
live, procreate and die without a trace. When looking at recent technological
advancements, the past 21 years has been nothing short of amazing, although 500
years ago, a 21 years span might have looked no different at either end. Still,
for people, generally, 21 years is a good long time.
And that
went on for many years. I did some things. I had some success. I had a family,
a home, a white picket fence and a mini-van… a wife and a career. But all of it,
in retrospect, felt like I was living by someone else’s script and all the
while I was “ad-libbing.” What did the ad-libbing look like? It was the epitome
of not thinking. Following the “establishment script,” the rules, the norms,
the conventions, the “way we are supposed to live life,” would have served me
well and kept me out of trouble, but for some reason I just could not keep on
that track (I have some ideas why now, but at the time I had no clue). The “left
turns” were minor in terms of adding, for lack of better words, excitement,
entertainment or recreation to my life – through chemistry - and the related
larger “left turns” that manifested in major life changes. The minor, over
time, often led to the major because there is no such thing as recreational
substance abuse, better known as addiction.
At 26
years old, I was still largely a responsible(ish) young adult with a promising
future ahead. All I needed to do was follow the script that remained ahead of
me. While I did need some cooperation (the dissolution of my short-lived
marriage was not in the script and, while my wife and I going off-script
contributed, there is a divorced, single father responsible adult script left),
it was still in my hands, if I could do it. I could not, and playing the victim
was particularly helpful in my justification to take my character into new and uncharted
waters. The twelve years between my 26th and 38th
birthday, in retrospect, was not a long time, but so much happened. The
successes were still there, but they were fewer, farther between and shorter. And
the trouble mounted, slowly at first, but it grew by orders of magnitude. I finally
got a handle on all of it in 2003 and again, for good, in 2004, buy by then a
lot of damage was already done.
Twenty-one
years ago today, my life was chaotic, and my two youngest sons were along for
the ride. They might have said that they were living a good life (they have
said so before), but they were not aware of everything going on and, despite
living in what many refer to as “paradise” in the mountains, there was plenty
of trouble in paradise. In just four days, all hell would break loose.
We were
all, of course, blissfully oblivious to what was on the horizon, but it was all
part of the script I was living – it was not a preordained conclusion, but is
was certainly in the cards. On October 17th, 2000 – not quite 21
years ago, everything would change. For me and my family, it was the beginning
of the end – not quite the end yet, that was still coming, but it was the
beginning. The beginning of the beginning would not come until 2002, but the
actually new life I enjoy today took another two years to come to pass. Ironically
enough, I am following my heart and following the rules, conventions and
norms of civilized society – the script I fought against so hard for so
long.
About 17 years ago, I was in between the Wayne Brown Correctional Facility (Nevada County Jail) serving
40 days of a 60 day sentence for a probation violation and the
Calaveras County Jail for a 90 sentence on the charge that got me
violated in Nevada County. I was coming off a six or seven months
relapse after being clean (or sober, depending on one’s brand of
recovery) for a little more than nine months after all the original
trouble that got me on probation in the first place. Another violation
would send me to state prison. I was again clean/sober — both by force
because I was in jail and by choice because I didn’t want to go to
prison, but I wasn’t happy about any of it. Those were not good days.
At
the end of 2003, at about nine months of staying out of trouble, of
staying straight, of “doing recovery,” I thought I had it going on. In
some respects, I did. I went back to school and attained the kind of
success that far surpassed anything I ever experienced academically
prior. I regained the trust of my family. I felt better — physically and
mentally — I had a clarity I could not remember ever feeling. But I
also felt a power over myself, my own wants and desires that was wholly
unfounded. I felt “in control” of much that I was not and, I believe,
will never be in control of. I felt that I could use drugs, and the drug
alcohol (although, for me it was primarily other drugs),
“recreationally.” That turned out to be absolutely false, but I not only
didn’t know it, I didn’t even consider it — I probably didn’t want to
know it.
I
also wanted it all — all that stuff, not just the material stuff, but
the status and the stature, the standing and the prominence, and, of
course, I wanted the material things, too. I wanted what I saw others
had, but I didn’t want to wait for it. It’s important to understand that
these concrete thoughts were not bouncing around in my head, I was not
saying these things to myself, but in retrospect, the thing the drugs
always gave me — instant gratification — was still driving me. I wanted
it all and I wanted it now.
That
week in between jails was difficult. I had 40 days clean and all the
motivation in the world to stay clean, but despite that, I wanted an
escape. I didn’t “want it all right now,” I just “wanted it all to end.”
I was pissed off all the time — nothing, it seemed, was going right. I
knew where I could find instant gratification, I knew where I could get
instant relief, but I also knew where that would get me. I also knew, by
then, with a clear, albeit angry, mind, that instant gratification only
lasts for an instant. But I just could not see any light at the end of
any tunnel. All I could focus on was staying out of prison and to do
that I had to stay clean. But that was not at all easy. Fortunately, I
would be locked up again soon before I could make another fateful
decision.
The
old Calaveras Jail was a miserable place. It has since been replaced
with a new, modern facility (so I hear), but at the time it was an
ancient, overcrowded hell-hole. However, the fact that it was
overcrowded worked to my advantage. Where I would have had to serve 60
days of that 90 day sentence, I was released after only eight days. And
eight days was enough. By the time I got home I was still angry (and, to
be clear about that, although I had plenty of anger to go around, and
many undeserving people got the brunt of it, I was really pissed off at
myself), but I had around 60 days clean and a bit of a foothold in
recovery once again.
But
the light was still nowhere to be found. I saw that others who were
doing this recovery thing had found something, and I saw that. Over
time, many had achieved big, fulfilling lives. I wanted that, too, but I
just could not see it for me. It was just too far away. I just needed
to stay out of prison — and that turned out to be challenging enough.
There were a couple of days when it was close, but I made it. I finally
made my way back to school at the local junior college and, as time went
on, things gradually got better. It was somewhere around six months
clean that a revelation washed over me — I’ll never forget it. It’s as
simple as it is powerful: I realized that I had gone a few days, maybe
several, without any anger. It might not seem like a big deal, but being
pissed off all the time is fucking exhausting and to realize, in
retrospect, that I was free from it for a sustained period of time —
and, also, not even knowing, specifically, that was what was draining me
until then — was like a wave crashing over me.
Of
course it didn’t last, but the anger, over time, continued to diminish
and the peace and serenity in my life began to increase. I continued
with my education, transferring to California State University,
Sacramento where I earned my BA, with honors. I then enrolled in the
communication studies MA program at CSUS earning a master’s degree. I
then applied to and was accepted into a Ph.D. program at Louisiana State
University where I advanced to doctoral candidacy before settling on
another master’s degree. During all that time, I stayed clean, stayed
“in recovery” and dealt with life as it came — not all good, not all
bad. I didn’t always handle every situation perfectly or even “well,”
but I also didn’t ever self-destruct over anything, either. The success
that eluded me my entire life — the bottom that always fell out eventually — still hasn’t, for 17 years now. And that light? It’s as bright as the sun now.
In
the last few years, my focus has been not so much all that “stuff” —
both material and status — that I so desperately wanted (or, thought I
wanted) all those years ago, but rather, it’s peace. It’s serenity. I
know that conflict is part of life, I know that it is unrealistic to
think that I can totally avoid it, but I can do quite a lot to mitigate
it, to moderate it, to not invite it and, where it comes to my own
domain, to show it the door. I have come to a place that probably has to
do with not just the years of recovery from addiction — which includes
but is not limited to just the complete abstinence from all mind and
mood altering drugs — but also an age where I simply do not feel like
wasting my time with bullshit. I will not tolerate drama, I do not do
passive-aggressive, if you ask me what I think, be prepared for the
truth.
All
those years ago, I wanted the things I have now. The money, the nice
house, the motorcycles (yes, plural, and I can’t even begin to say how
excited I am about the one I’m picking up tomorrow), the ability to not
worry about paying my bills and living paycheck to paycheck. I thought
that’s all I wanted; I thought that would make me “happy” (a misnomer;
what I want is contentedness, satisfaction, peace — happiness is and
must be fleeting). It turns out that those things are a result of all
else. I enjoy the “things,” I like my stuff, but that stuff absent the
intangible peace and peace of mind it took, literally, all those years
to attain, would be meaningless. I know, because I’ve had “stuff” before
and it never gave me what I really sought. But, I never really knew
what I was looking for. It took 17 years to get here, there is no way I
could have seen that 17 years ago.